If you know someone who has lost a child, it can be difficult to know how to help and what to say.
This list has been borrowed from another grieving parent who blogs, and it rings so true for me that I thought it worth repeating. The original source of this list is Bereaved Parent USA chapter member Doris Jackson, of Indiana.
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Be patient with us. Our lives have totally changed.
Don’t forget us, one, two, three, four or even five years down the road.
We will never forget their death date, birthday or special occasion.
Try not to be offended if we don’t...
Laugh as much as we used to
Don’t want to go out as much as we used to
Don’t feel comfortable in crowds
Are no longer the life of the party
Need to be around other people who have lost children
Do support us by...
Talk about our kids; we love to hear their names.
Support us on our walks, golf scrambles, motorcycle rides or whichever way we choose to honor our child.
Remember us at the Holiday season. They are hard for us.
Ask us how we are doing. Just be sincere when you ask.
Send us cards or pictures of our kids.
Tell us stories about our kids that make us happy and smile.
Let us talk about our children. Don’t let us hear that stone-cold silence when we mention their name.
Love us just where we are today.
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